Divorce

This is something all around us.

Whether it deals with the fact we ourselves have been divorced or we grew up in divorce.

It's something we have all had to deal with one way or another.

My generation is the first generation that has started growing up in divorce homes more frequently.

In the book Family Ministry (An old book) it says the current divorce rate is 1 out of 5 (The book was from 1982) they say it's likely that divorce rates could rise to 2 out of 5 within the next decade or so.

Well…divorce rate numbers I have seen anywhere from 46 to 60 percent of all marriages end in divorce.

I was born in 1982, by 1984 before I knew it, my parents were divorced.

From my earliest memories, I went to visit my dad on Monday night and every other weekend.

Mom remarried then when I was in seventh grade got divorced again.

Was divorce okay?

Did she have a reason to get divorced?

My biological dad was an alcoholic and would spend bill money on alcohol.

It ended up the reason why they were divorced.

The second one was because of an abusive relationship among other things.

Is it okay to get divorced according to the Bible?

Jesus has a whole section about this in Matthew 19:1-12.

This is Jesus talking about this in verses 8-9…

"Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for martial unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

People were thickheaded and getting divorce for stupid reasons.

Jesus clears up that it's for martial unfaithfulness.

This most likely means adultery, whether one time or multiple infractions could be debated.

Jesus meant for marriage to be when two become one.

I honestly believe that my mom got divorced for the right reasons.

The second time I just figured one of my parents were going to kill each other.

I am not joking, with how they fought, I didn't think we would have two parents.

Divorce is an interesting subject and something that is hard to go through whether a spouse or as a kid.

I have seen what it has done in myself and my brothers and sisters.

Some of the things I have got or seen as a result of divorce…

• Low self-esteem
  
• Anger issues develop
  
• Depression – just wanting to quit everything
  
• Withdrawal – from everyone close because it results in possibly being hurt.
  
• Major emotional issues – from either showing no emotions to crying over the littlest thing.
  
• Constant need of approval – Not sure if anything you do is right, constantly need to be talked up.
  

The list could go on and on.

What have you personally seen?

I have seen people get divorced for some big reasons and some little reasons.

Yet I have also seen people work out their relationships even after major issue.

I have seen couples stay together and have great marriages after the husband slept around and had another kid with another woman.

It takes a ton of work, but it can be done.

The more you're hurt the harder it is.

But if marriage was so easy everyone would do it and stay together.

Only the tough survive.

What do you think?

Have a great day.