That’s a toughie

Some things are easy and some things are a toughie.

I remember a theme from a company about fixing cars.

You take it to the other guys and that's a toughie or you could take it to the right place and have it fixed right.

Some things are tough for some people and some things aren't.

The section of scripture that I am reading today deals with divorce.

This is not an easy subject by any means.

My family dealt with this since I can remember.

As children, my brothers and sisters went through childhood dealing with a couple of divorces.

This was a toughie.

I grew up in a divorced family then experienced it in middle school.

Basically the one reason for divorce given is because of adultery.

Jesus was asked this question about divorce from people wanting to stump him.

When they asked about is it okay to divorce your wife, Jesus threw it right back at them and asked them.

When they gave their OT (Old Testament) view they gave the law of Moses in regards to divorce that a man could write a certificate of divorce to his wife.

Then the man would send her away.

The problem was some believed this was regarded to just adultery while others believed a man could divorce his wife for anything.

This is what Jesus responded with in Mark 10:5-9…

"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'
'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.'  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Marriage is so two can become one.

God made us this way for a reason.

It's hard with the fact that marriage isn't always easy.

It's not always going great or that storybook ending.

Happily ever after only happens in fairy tales.

Real marriage takes work.

It takes the ability to accept faults and forgive.

It requires working on communication and dealing with the stresses of everyday life.

There is no perfect marriage, they all take work.

I have seen and heard of divorces happen for many reasons, some were rightfully so and others were not.

I have seen marriages that ended because:

• Alcoholism
  
• Adultery
  
• Abuse
  
• They were together so long they mine as well get married then when things don't improve, they end it.
  
• She was pregnant, there wasn't really love and they had to follow their religion beliefs, they never really loved each other.
  
• It just wasn't fun anymore.
  
• He never listened.
  
• She just nagged.
  
• There was no communication.
  

Whether the right reason for divorce or not, divorce is still tough.

I can honestly say there are traits that my brothers, sisters and I struggle with because of our parents divorces.

It's not a pretty picture.

Marriage takes work, Jesus talks about when two become one.

When becoming one, it's hard to separate easily.

Marriage is meant to be a beautiful thing.

Divorce rates keep creeping up, I want to be part of a generation that turns this around.

I want to be the generation that does marriage better than any generation before us.

I want to be part of a generation that isn't afraid to seek outside help to save a marriage.

I want to show that marriage is till death do us part.

How about you?

Have a great weekend.