Showing posts with label married. Show all posts
Showing posts with label married. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Withholding sex in marriage


Break up over video games is funny and true. I had a friend that was dating this girl. He had a long day at work and was ready to head home and play some video games. His girlfriend called and asked if he wanted to hang out. He told her, I had a long day at work and I’m ready to chill and play some video games. She said ok, well I will just come over and watch you play video games, he didn’t understand but said ok. She came over, he was hanging out and playing video games, after about 15 minutes she got angry and asked if he was going to spend anytime with her. He replied I had a long day, I want to relax and play video games and you knew that coming over. She got more mad and said, “I am not dealing with this, its me or the video games.” He replied, “Seeya.” He broke up with a girlfriend over video games.

It might not always be a good thing to be in a relationship. Paul shares in a long section on Marriage in 1 Corinthians 7 about whether it’s good to marry or not and what sex is in a marriage. This goes on for 40 verses but this is the first couple of verses…

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

Sex is meant for a man and wife in marriage. Outside of that can be a major problem. Now God does show grace and mercy and almost all of us including myself have made mistakes in this regard. I am a firm believer that the best sex you will ever have will take place between a husband and wife in marriage. You learn what each other like and God blesses sex when it’s done in the right way in a marriage. It states about not trying to hold sex from the other spouse. The goal of a marriage is to be responsible to satisfy each other’s desires.

Verse 5 shares that couple were trying to maintain celibacy in marriage, WHAT???? Couples were refraining from sex because one of the people did not want to have sex. It was not agreed that they would be holding out on sex. This lead to cheating on the part of the other mate. Paul gave them only three ways withholding sex was ok according to the Bible Knowledge Commentary. 1. It was a mutual consent from husband and wife. 2. They would agree on a time when normal intercourse would occur. 3. They were able to devote themselves to prayer in a deep way. Outside of this is a sin.

Marriage is about meeting each other’s desires it involves much more then sex, but sex is included. If you are married, are you doing everything necessary to please your spouse? This isn’t about what they are or aren’t doing. What do you need to do to improve your marriage and make it better? If you are single please read through this scripture. There are plenty of benefits to remaining single. Maybe video games mean more to you then a relationship.

Have a great day.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

When I grow up I want to be a sports star


Plans change.

When I was younger, I always wanted to be a pro sports star.

My brothers and I spend days upon days playing, basketball, baseball, hockey, football and whatever else we could play.

Our goal as a young kids was to play pro sports.

We had so much fun playing.

In life you can’t always have everything planned.

What did you want to be as a child?

Sometimes life has a way of changing.

Before getting married, I wanted maybe two kids.

Immediately after having Nevaeh, I wanted no more kids.

Life changes and plans change.

I am excited that thanksgiving will be extra special this year as we should have our fourth child.

We need to be ready for change and how life can change.

Paul and friends were traveling and looking for a place to go and pray soon they found themselves talking with a lady.

If they stuck to their plan they would have focused on prayer, instead this is what happened in Acts 16:14-15…

“One of those listening was a woman named Lydia, a dealer in purple cloth from the city of Thyatira, who was a worshipper of God.  The Lord opened her heart to respond to Paul’s message.  When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home.”

Paul went for prayer and ended up giving salvation to a women and her whole family.

What if Paul didn’t change and adapt?

Would that household go to heaven or not?

It’s not for us to decided, but imagine if he focused on what he intended to do when going there.

Sometimes life can change.

As stable as life can be it can become unstable very quickly.

Learning to role with the punches is key to make it through life.

Where are you at in life?

How have you dealt with change?

Do you adapt and make the best of the situation or do you take the hit and fall to the ground?

Paul adapted and made the best of the situation he went into.

How can you make the situations you go through in life better.

What can you personally do to improve?

It’s up to you.

Have a great day.